If you truly love to get back together with your ex, then you will have to do quite a bit of soul searching. You have got to be utterly honest with yourself. Hiding from reality does not solve the problem as it is just a plain form of escapism. You will have to make a clean decision as to whether you and your ex will be happier together if both of you get back together. If you assess that your relationship is definitely worthwhile to salvage, then let me share with you some pointers that get you started.
For a start, pestering your ex is definitely not a good idea. You will only project yourself as a pest to your ex. Refrain from contacting your ex straight away after the breakup. Avoid bombarding your ex with excessive phone calls or text messages. Never try to stalk your ex as this will piss your ex even further. All the above instances will only show how desperate you are.
Do not argue, beg or plead with your ex about your past relationship. You do not want to appear as needy and desperate. Instead, carefully assess the root causes that have caused the relationship to fail. What has gone wrong previously? Saying sorry first is a good start but you really need to find out the reasons behind the breakup as well.
The past is really the past already. There is really no use in harping on something that has happened. Instead, think about the future and how you can improve on it. Be forward-looking and show that you want to build a more beautiful future with your ex. Prove to your ex with actions, not by empty promises. Building trust is important and trust is built on realising what you say.
All these look easier said than done but they are true. They will only be effective if you put them into action.
Now ask yourself this – Do you want your ex back? It is not easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. Throughout the article, I have gone through a systematic plan which lays the foundation for you to get your ex back. However, it is important to continue to adapt to the situation.