Though many people manage to do it, getting back together with an ex may not be that simple for several others. Many fail to make it successfully through this bumpy ride primarily because one of them is in a dying hurry to set things right at the earliest. Wishes unfortunately are not horses!
First of all it is nearly impossible for any reconciliation to happen when emotional wounds are still raw and tempers are high.
Talking things over with this state of mind usually turns the interaction into a nightmarish experience spiced with blames and more blames. This generates further ill feelings towards each other. Thus, the best way to go about it is to hold your patience and allow time to do the necessary healing of the bruised mind and ego.
For a successful and happy reconciliation both of you need to forget and forgive each other. Unless this happens, no meaningful communication can result in any positive outcome.
Fights and arguments leave you flustered and angry. Your rational thinking abilities go for a toss. Only with time can things cool down and you start to view things more maturely and in different perspectives.
Another important change may dawn on you with the passage of time. You develop more resilience to pursue your dream of getting your ex lover back into your life. You get in to a more positive frame of mind where no past negativity has any place.
Everyone knows the power of positive thinking. It can give you enough strength to fight any battle. When you approach the process of reconciliation thinking that you are cut out to be a winner in the game, you will emerge a winner, no matter how stiff the opposition is.
Thus the most graceful way for getting back together with an ex is to wait in the wings for a while. Let time take its own course and gradually you would find that your ex too is showing signs of eagerness to return to your arms.