Holding a torch for someone from your past is perfectly normal. You’ve always wondered “What if they were the one that got away”. Wondered, “How your life would be different if you had stayed together?” These are a couple of common questions that people in your situation find themselves asking, but the most important is “Can getting back together after a long time work?” The answer to this question really lies in why did the break happen in the first place.
A lot of times couples break up because they are young and immature and don’t truly realize just how special the other person is until they are gone and out of their life. Another common reason for a break up is job relocation or family pressures. Sometimes a break up just occurs because of bad timing.
They are however times when a break up takes place, because of specific reasons, and if these reasons are still part of your life they you will need to work them out if you are going to have any chance of getting back together. Absence can make the heart grow fonder, but remember that memories are extremely influential when it comes to matters of the heart and can distort what actually happened.
If you are thinking of getting back together after a long time apart, there must still be physical attraction and emotional chemistry between the two of you. Physical attraction is what normally initially brings a couple together, but if it isn’t followed up with an emotional connection, the relationship is certain to be doomed.
A long term relationship is based on mutual respect, love and commitment for one another. If any one of these three are missing, the odds of spending the rest of your lives together goes down. A couple that is deeply committed to one another on all levels, is much more likely to be able to deal with any of lifes twists it throws at them.
Maybe the two of you were together for a long time, maybe even had a family together. If this is the situation that you are in, you have to be sure that you are getting back together for the right reasons, and not just because your children want you to. Just like a couple shouldn’t stay together for the sake of children, a relationship shouldn’t be rekindled for the children either.
Can getting back together after a long time work? Well if you want this for the right reasons and are willing to take things slowly, who knows there may be wedding bells down the road for you after all. Maybe for the second time.
To your relationship success.