There are several things that can lead to a breakup and equally several things that people do after a breakup that end up worsening an already complicated situation. When you have just broken up with your ex, there are a couple of things you should avoid doing after the breakup.
A lot of them are ineffective methods to adopt when you are trying to win back your ex. Making these mistakes have the tendency of making your ex more annoyed, angry and frustrated which only make matters worse for you by pushing your ex farther away from you.
Mistake # 1: Isolating Yourself
After a breakup, most people simply want to keep to themselves and be completely isolated from the rest of the world. They feel like holding up in their apartments, remain in bed all day. Crawling under the covers will not help you in this condition but rather you should be considering calling up your best friends and getting social again. Get out of the house, and get active again to help you stop thinking about the breakup.
Mistake # 2: Engaging in Self-Indulgent Habits
You should not start smoking, drinking, overeating or fooling around. While eating can to some degree make you feel better, you end up adding more weight in the process. Getting out of shape at this point when you are most vulnerable will not only makes you feel and look lousy but may also create a cycle of depression.
Also, the use of alcohol in your present situation is not a good idea. Alcohol on its own acts as a depressant and while it may make you feel good about yourself temporarily, it ultimately adds more pain. And then you still have to contend with the resultant hangovers, headaches and drunken dialing that often come along with it. None of these excesses will give you any real short or long-term benefits.
Mistake # 3: Running After Your Ex
In your desperation to get back together with your ex, you may want to start running after them so that they can see more of you in the hope that they will start thinking more about you. Never run after or stalk your ex, rather step back and give them some space. Equally, you need to give yourself some space to find your footing again, and regain your self-confidence before you start thinking about getting back together with your ex.
Mistake # 4: Begging Your Ex for Re-acceptance
At times, your desperation and feeling unable to cope without your ex might tempt you to go overboard and start pleading with your ex to take you back. Avoid this because it will only end up stroking their ego and even make them annoyed with you.
Mistake # 5: Trying to Get Over Your Ex on Your Own
This is obviously one of the reason it takes so long for many people to get over their ex after a breakup. Trying to do it all on your own is ineffective mostly because your emotions are clouded and you can hardly see and think clearly. Your judgments are bound to be irrational at the most and only worsen issues for you.
It is therefore important that you stop making these mistakes to get back together with your ex sooner. You will therefore need a plan that will help you avoid these and many other mistake so that you can process the pain of the breakup, heal from it and then move on to quickly get back together with your ex. Avoiding these mistakes gives you the best chance at reconciliation with your ex.